Teens Coming Out

So, you think you are gay?

Chances are, if you have ever questioned your sexuality, then you probably are doing so for a good reason.

I hate to say it, but a lot of people consider sexual orientation more than what it is.  A lot of people wonder "do I walk gay, do I talk gay, do I act gay?"  Yes, while these are generalizations of the gay community that are justly made, all that you should be asking yourself is "do I like boys, girls or both."

People are funny in how they read into things too much.  Damn, you could have the gayest walk around, but if you truly like girls, then you are probably straight.  Some people are funny in the sense that they say, "I like boys, but why don't I act girly?"  Seriously, not all gay guys resemble the stereotypical flaming gay.

Now, one of the hardest parts of being gay is coming to the conclusion that you are.  While there are some people who have known all their lives, many people have to discover their sexual orientation.  That is when everything clicks that, wow, no wonder I never wanted to have a girlfriend!

The hardest part, of course, is coming out.  Don't rush it.  But keep in mind that if you do not come out, you run the risk of not being as happy as you possibly could.  Yes, it is your decision to come out or not.  You certainly don't have to, but in my opinion, it is something that absolutely must be done for your own happiness.  While you aren't going to be 100% happy coming out, you certainly will be in the long run.

Or at least that is my opinion, but I'd be happy to hear yours in the comments!

Finding the right person to come out to is probably half the battle.  I recommend coming out to your best friend first, not to your family.  Family is likely to take things personally and have a greater shock, depending on the family of course, whereas friends know you, care about you, but won't have that shocked feeling of "how could I have raised him this way?"  Of course, that is not to say that all parents will feel that way, but if you are uncertain, a good choice is to tell a friend first.

Next, I would say to find a nice, quiet place to tell someone.  Face to face is a must!  Not only is it inconsiderate not to do so, but your first coming out is going to be one of your most memorable moments in life, and while you may not think so now, you wait!  You're going to want to make it special.

Make sure that everyone is in a good mood.  Don't come out to your best friend after having a mini-fight.  That's like adding fuel to the fire, and you are not likely to get a very positive response.  Wait until things are right, and just say it.  I know that saying you are gay can be a bit awkward, but it gets a lot easier to talk about as you come out to more people.  (Hate to break it to you, but coming out is not a one-time deal.)

Some people might not know right away if they are gay or bi, and it is okay not to know right away.  Just say that you "aren't straight."  It's a lot more comforting to give yourself that time needed to think.

Remember, most people will take it well,  Some might not.  Don't be discouraged, and don't let one person try to change who you are!  Being gay is not a lifestyle choice.  Who would want to put themselves through being gay, really?  But that is not to say that you shouldn't be true to yourself, because pretty much everyone is going to agree that everyone... even you.... is entitled to living a happy, healthy life.

I'd love to hear your opinion.  If you think you are ready, I am here to help!  :)

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